Crying after your friend leaves to go home after a sleep-over let me relate to you immediately and a great entry point to unpack the connections between your mother's death and fear of abandonment. A clear explanation of attachment theory helps me understand better what you experienced.
Attachment to a certain degree is necessary (the secure kind) but the co dependent kind is unhealthy and that's what I am still working on. I've come a long way with many peoples help 😁
Very good research and thought processing. Maybe it would benefit for us to take a step back to our first human contact outside the womb, the first time we latched on to our mother's breast, or at least snuggled against her chest as our hunger and suckle instincts were met. Breast or bottle, they met that physical need, a need to be connected to food source for, as you say, even minimal survival. Without nourishment, we would not live, without attachment we cannot be healthy. The emotional piece is as important if an individual is to be stable and secure. The journey you have taken to learn how to nourish the child within has led you to great wisdom and to love yourself.
Crying after your friend leaves to go home after a sleep-over let me relate to you immediately and a great entry point to unpack the connections between your mother's death and fear of abandonment. A clear explanation of attachment theory helps me understand better what you experienced.
Thank you! Writing and reliving history has also helped.
And having more patience with yourself to comprehend the impact of that history. And aren't we lucky to have had loving aunts?
Attachment to a certain degree is necessary (the secure kind) but the co dependent kind is unhealthy and that's what I am still working on. I've come a long way with many peoples help 😁
Very good research and thought processing. Maybe it would benefit for us to take a step back to our first human contact outside the womb, the first time we latched on to our mother's breast, or at least snuggled against her chest as our hunger and suckle instincts were met. Breast or bottle, they met that physical need, a need to be connected to food source for, as you say, even minimal survival. Without nourishment, we would not live, without attachment we cannot be healthy. The emotional piece is as important if an individual is to be stable and secure. The journey you have taken to learn how to nourish the child within has led you to great wisdom and to love yourself.